I went to the cheese museum in Gouda last year and they explained that according to the current theory our ancestors discovered butter and cheese by hanging pouches of milk on their horses or cattle while traveling. The movement would turn the milk into butter and, if they used pouches made of animal stomach, the bacteria would turn the milk into cheese. So this is more or less the method by which we discovered butter in the first place.

I’m 40 (1985). I’ve had my experiences with older guys hitting on me when I was your age. I can tell you that, in my experience, the reason why men like that won’t date in their own age group is because women their age see the red flags more clearly or won’t put up with their bullshit.

Here are some things he might do to look out for: Does he try to impress you with things that are achievements for your age group but should be normal for his? Having a car, having their own apartment, having money to take you out etc. Maybe he’ll offer to drive you places or stay at his place to get away from your parents.

Does he comment a lot on your age and experience level. Things like “Have you already done (alcohol, sex…)”, “I’ve done XYZ, but you wouldn’t know about it”. Or does he act overly impressed by you ‘already’ knowing something, like music from his teenage years, having a job or just some common knowledge he thinks is “adult”, maybe about cars or jobs. Basically, does he act like you are special, more mature for your age or does he talk about your age a lot.

Even if he doesn’t do any of these things, I’d advice you against it. The age gap is too big. The world of an 18 year old who just got out of school is just very different from a 33 year old who is working a job. Having a few hobbies or music taste in common isn’t the same as being in the same place in life.

Everyone complains about it being empty and not many want to do anything about it. I’m not sure if this is even because of the user number, because I’ve been on forums with just a few users that were very active. It often seems like too many people here are waiting for a large influx of users so that others can do the posting. Also people try waaaay too hard to copy Reddit 1:1. They have this one very specific community with certain content and try to copy it here. If there was a subreddit for a 1998 version of an obscure computer game, they want this very same community to exist here. Instead of discussing said game in a more general community.

Met my husband on an event and we immediately got along great. We met up the next day for coffee, which turned into a 4 hour date, and I had the hugest crush on him. He came by my apartment five days later and we talked for hours, kissed, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. So about a week from first meeting to getting together. I think I told him I’ll marry him one day after a month or so. We’ve been together for 8 1/2 years now.

I don’t think the kids thought that far. I certainly didn’t.

In my elementary school there was a rumour that kissing someone on the mouth makes a baby in the throat. I’ve heard it still being spread years later. There are also parodies of famous German poems that you have or had to memorize in school, although I some kids learnt them from their parents. I know parody versions of Die Glocke and Die Bürgschaft.

Funfact: there are several airlines specializing in horse transport. One of them is called “Air Horse One”.

I find it worse when the sexual tension just keeps on going and goes nowhere. I really liked for example that they didn’t do that in Kim Possible. They let Kim and Ron become a couple and made new stories about how they work out as a couple. It’s been a while since I’ve watched it, but I remember appreciating that they could just be together instead of some will-they-won’t-they bullshit.

We need stricter social rules again in a lot of areas and children need to be brought up stricter again. Now I don’t mean we should get back to being in other people’s business in regards to what they wear or who they love. But let’s go back to shunning people for littering. Teach kids to sit still and be quiet in certain spaces like public transport or restaurants. Ostracize people who are loud and disruptive in public. Let’s just implement some stricter social rules again.