edit: the date isn’t happening anymore. he texted me asking if we could change the venue as he realized he can’t really afford that restaurant at the moment (???, why was this realization so last minute) & i told him no worries i can pay for everything. he told me no way i could ever let a girl pay, it’s not fair to the girl and also “emasculating” to him. hate that attitude. called it off and cut contact. thank u, next.
So I hit this guy up on Insta, and we’ve been chatting for the past few days, calling and video calling and all that. Tonight he’s taking me out to dinner; just a date, nothing more. I talk to my parents about everything, and they told me to observe his behavior but keep an open mind.
Thats fine, I’d agree with that advice, though I dont think its a 100% never ever do this under any situation.
My sole point was that a young woman going on an ill advised date should not be mixed up with children being raped, which is what you were doing by calling someone going on a date with an 18 year old a pedo. That would apply if the man in question was 28 or 68.
you are correct in that 18 is technically “legal.” barely. my position is still that under 25 = kid, without the life experience to realize how fucking creepy it is for someone over 30 to pursue a teenager. again, subtract one year from each side (32 yr old dating 17 yr old), and your argument based solely on “legal age” no longer works.
ultimately OP does what she wants regardless, and it looks like the date is off, which makes me glad. as an old guy, i know guys, and i know the type of guy who actively goes after the youngest possible women. they are best avoided