i would venture a guess that not voting against republican is 2nd place to that

colon cancer is through the roof, and they haven’t nailed down a specific cause, though it’s pretty strongly suggested that the garbage in the food supply, along with all the things in your comment, is contributing

cutting back on processed stuff (deli meat, tv dinners, cereal with 50 ingredients, etc) and fast food should be on everyone’s to-do list

https://www.yalemedicine.org/news/colorectal-cancer-in-young-people

people who do care don’t have the power, numbers, tools, infrastructure or willingness

you’re right.

every day i’m more and more glad that i never had kids

this would have been considered a “scandal” 10 years ago, just like the pornstar hushmoney was. but today, no one cares.

the answer is of course corruption, and blackmail, and fascism.

but again–no one cares. so you could tattoo this on people’s face, and still nothing would happen

i’m getting to the point where if someone i don’t know that well starts talking to me about some bullshit on instagram, i immediately judge them

edit: it’s the same for FB tiktok twitter-- any of those bullshits. i don’t fucking care what you saw on fucking facebook, and since you brought it up, moving forward, i care less about anything you say than i would have before

you are correct in that 18 is technically “legal.” barely. my position is still that under 25 = kid, without the life experience to realize how fucking creepy it is for someone over 30 to pursue a teenager. again, subtract one year from each side (32 yr old dating 17 yr old), and your argument based solely on “legal age” no longer works.

ultimately OP does what she wants regardless, and it looks like the date is off, which makes me glad. as an old guy, i know guys, and i know the type of guy who actively goes after the youngest possible women. they are best avoided

fair enough. i’ll concede maybe the 33 year old dating the 18 year old isn’t necessarily a “pedo”

going on a date with someone 10 years older than her

18 vs 33 is NOT 10 years. why would you try to change OPs situation into a 10 year age gap, when it’s literally 15 years? and before you say “what’s the big deal,” try that argument with a 30 yr old dating a 15 yr old-- same age gap, only 3 years difference-- what’s the big deal?

look, i usually don’t chime in on violet’s posts with old people advice, but in this case she specifically asked for advice, and my advice to ANY woman under 25 is this-- be very wary of dudes 15 years older than you trying to get in your pants. take it or leave it

do you have kids? are you totally cool with your daughter going out with someone who’s closer to your age than to hers? the fact that so many people in here are cheering on this person over 30 hooking up with someone under 20 is really fucked up to me

Age per se is no flag

there’s a huge difference between a 30 yr old and 45 yr old dating, and a 30 yr old dating a 15 yr old-- even though the 15 year age gap is the same

a 33 year old trying to get with a 18 year old is sus af, and i’ll die on that hill

please tell me exactly what part of my comment conflates anything with child sexual abuse

call the shit off. there are plenty of not-pedophiles 25 or under for you to date

i guess i can see that most guys your age are childish/inexperienced, and that’s the appeal of “older” men. but let me tell you something (as a guy well over 45): if a dude hasn’t grown up by 25, then they’re not going to grow up. yea, there’s definitely a “type” of 30+ yr old dude who wants to hook up with teenagers, and i’d advise you against it.

be careful with this one-- above all, stay in public, cover your drink

call me old, but a 33 yr old going on a date with a 18 yr old… yea, red flag

the point isn’t to “win.” the point is to be at war

isn’t that pretty much a minimum requirement to be GOP at this point?

the problem is that it’s not going to stop there. kids will obviously still get porn, and fascists will say “seeeeee!!??! we need even more personal data to protect the kids!!! OS age verification isn’t enough!!!”

steps in the wrong direction are exactly that, and exactly what this OS bullshit is. everyone having to pay the price for parents who can’t be assed to raise their own kids

edit: i need to add–it’s not actually about the kids. it never was. it’s about collecting every 1 and every 0 that exists about you, for profit, but also for surveillance. every dissenting comment, post, photo, etc will be linked to a unique human being via dozens (or hundreds. thousands?) of data points. before you say “no way,” remember the ridiculous percentage of 1/6 insurrectionists they rooted out, based on social media posts. and that was before AI blew up

are you gonna tell me that in a crowd of 1000 people, your eye isn’t drawn to some people over others?

everyone has “shallow preferences,” and yes, some people definitely limit themselves to those alone, but not everyone is that dumb

i can’t say i have a definite answer to why dudes behave that way. if i had to guess i’d say these people have adopted the hive mentality of “it’s women’s fault i can never get a date” and can’t figure out why they get ghosted after acting like an asshole all the time. they don’t idolize asian women, they idolize cartoon depictions of asian women (girls).

one thing i can tell you for sure is that those people aren’t worth a molecule of your time and attention, and giving them either of those things is pretty much giving them what they want.

maybe you’re finding yourself among sweaty incels who own more than one anime waifu body pillow

if it makes you feel any better, i’m an asian man and prefer white women over asian women. nothing “wrong” with either, just my preference

of course. they’re all in the epstein files too

If you are many generations in and have, for all intents and purposes, lost your connection with the hyphenated part of your culture, and don’t have any intent to learn with or contect with that culture other than by name, it does feel a bit preformative

i.e., an american saying “i’m italian” even though they don’t speak a word of it and have never been there, but grandma has an italian name