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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • I’m so white it looks like my veins got drawn on with a blue sharpie. I went to a segregated prep school.

    The “you are playing a multi player game on easy mode and currently you are economically roflstomping the people who are playing on hard mode, and bragging about how well you are doing. Is that who you want to be?” argument was what got to me.

    Granted, I used to be male-passing, well paid, healthy, decent looking, I got dealt a very good hand, so that presentation of it found me where I was.


  • Women police the patriarchy plenty.

    My experience from square straight married life is that women want men in general to be gentle and kind and whatnot, but they want their own husband to be capable of violence.

    At least that was my wife, there were aspects of toxic masculinity that she absolutely encouraged.

    Like, one time I got on a busy train with her and another guy got scared of me and left his seat. She sat down and smiled and patted my hand and said “that’s respect right there baby”

    And I totally understand the desire to have sex with a big strong not too bright dominant guy, trust me I get it.

    It’s not just SOs, mothers often play a huge part in conditioning men for the patriarchy, calling them little soldiers, telling them not to cry, to fight back at the bully at school, etc.


  • Fact is that as white people in North America, we DO get privileged treatment from the banking system, law enforcement, shopkeepers, bus drivers, random people in the street…

    And white people in North America have it their whole lives, and will continue to have it their whole lives for the most part.

    Is it unpleasant to be reminded that you’ll spend your whole life playing with the White Assist mode, and that every single non white person knows that about you? Yeah.

    That there are circles you won’t be let into by default because of actions taken by other people? Yeah.

    White supremacist ideology is bad for everyone, including white people, but it’s bad for white people in an emotional health way, while it’s bad for non white people in a life and death way.