Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
Personally, as a guy, I think him just questioning it is enough for you to have rejected him.
The only appropriate response to being told to use a condom is, “Of course I’m going to use a condom.”
“…um, do you have one?”
That is also an appropriate response. And if the answer is no then we are done here. Try again next time.
I always felt like it was my responsibility to have them.