That response was the explanation I was referring to, yes. I’m the one who upvoted it because it was a nice explanation. I deleted the comment I made that this was responding to. I’m pretty sure I’ve already deleted my own comments that sparked these exchanges, so you’ll only be able to find responses.

I tend to delete anything that causes me anxiety, both because the existence of the comment is causing me distress and also because I’m perpetually misunderstood. It always “feels” like I’m to blame for these stressful situations even when I know I’m not responsible.

The comms I’ve had this issue with always upvote my initial comment declaring my asexuality and then downvote the comment where I talk about trauma. Even without explanation that strikes me as a clear rejection.

Thanks for looking into this, I’m a little shocked someone took the time. It’s appreciated.

We can’t control what “God” does but we do have control over our society. And our society forces women to work with cramps that would inspire any normal person to call in sick.

Very true, maybe I just mentioned in the wrong place. The way it’s handled it especially hurtful. I’m also autistic, and people will ghost me instead of explaining the issue with our relationship. They never bother explaining the issue, they just vanish.

No one bothered to explain the reason they were downvoting me. Not a single comment, just downvotes. Eventually, in the midst of a panic attack (losing your identity shortly after receiving it will do that), I asked why I was being rejected. I only know about the “not born asexual” thing because someone finally included an explanation with their downvote.

Lemmy isn’t as accepting as this suggests. I get downvoted (rejected) by the queer community here every time I talk about my asexuality. Apparently I don’t qualify because I wasn’t born asexual and became ace through childhood trauma. So I’m back to having no sexuality at all. I’m just an empty vessel. A void. It was nice to experience the perception of acceptance for a little while, at least.

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https://vger.to/lemmy.world/post/43731140

This poster posts actual shitposts. I only had to scroll through this broken comm for 5 fucking seconds to find an actual shitpost with no agenda.

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Only through apathy. If the mods did their fucking jobs and actually made a rule against political posts, and then enforced that rule, we wouldn’t have this problem.

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Stein? She’s a Russian agent, meant to take votes away from democratic candidates. I thought this was common knowledge. How is third party a better choice when the Republican candidate is literally a fascist? Voting third party supports “the beast” and we had no idea Biden would be such a catastrophe for Gaza, and we had no idea that October 7th was going to happen.

I chose the most pragmatic option.

Not a shitpost.

…why? It’s a two party system. You’re suggesting I should justify voting against Donald Fucking Trump, the child rapist? There was no other option. I was supposed to go through a 50 year political career to find some bad shit? And then what, get mad at some old CSPAN clips and then vote for the kid raper? You’re not being realistic.

Who did you vote for?

I didn’t vote for him in the primary, though. And I wasn’t about to vote for Trump. I should’ve researched an old candidate’s 50 year history in politics to justify voting against Donald Fucking Trump?